Art of Family-Life

Art of Family-Life

Marriage

1.              Should not observe asceticism / monasticism. - 57:27

2.              Marriage is a way shown by the Prophet (pbuh). - 2:35, 4:1, 7:19, 7:83, 7:189, 11:40, 11:81, 13:38, 15:65, 19:55, 20:10, 20:117, 20:132, 21:76, 21:84, 21:90, 26:169, 26:170, 27:7, 27:57, 28:27, 28:29, 29:32, 29:33, 33:6, 33:28, 33:37, 33:50, 33:52, 33:53, 33:59, 37:76, 37:134, 38:43, 39:6, 51:26, 66:1, 66:3, 66:5

3.              It is an agreement of leading a new life. 4:21

4.              Polygamy is permitted for men. - 4:3, 4:129

5.              Those who cannot be married. - 2:221, 4:22, 4:23, 4:24, 60:10

6.              Muslim men and women should not marry non-Muslims. - 2:221, 60:10

7.              Women, if she is divorced or a widow cannot remarry until she delivers the child, if she is pregnant. - 65:4

8.              A person cannot marry those who are in prostitution. - 24:3

9.              For financial reasons, a marriage cannot be postponed. - 24:32

10.         Muslims can marry those women who belong to the people of the Book. - 5:5

11.         Should marry only people of good character. - 24:26

12.         The poverty can be removed by marriage. - 24:32

Mahar - The Bridal Gift

1.              Bridal gift is compulsory for a marriage. . - 4:4, 4:24, 4:25, 4:127, 5:5, 60:10

2.              It is the right of the woman to decide the amount of Mahar. It is also her right whether to forgo or accept it as a debt. - 2:229, 2:237, 4:4

3.              Any amount can be given as Mahar. - 4:20, 28:27

4.              Should not ask the women to return the Mahar which has been given. - 4:20, 4:21

5.              If the Mahar is fixed and the husband divorces his wife before having family relationship. - 2:237

Compensation after Divorce

·                 An arrangement made either by the Islamic government or by the Jamath to receive and pay the compensation to a woman who has married and divorced without fixation of Mahar. - 2:236

Family Life

1.              The couple should experience happiness. - 2:187, 4:19

2.              Avoid having family relation during the menstruation period. - 2:222

3.              There is no restriction in the family relationship. - 2:223

4.              Wife should obey her husband. - 2:228, 4:32, 4:34

5.              Peace of mind due to marriage. - 7:189, 25:74, 30:21

6.              High status for the man. - 2:228, 4:34

7.              Artificial insemination. - 2:223

8.              Partiality among the wives. - 4:129

9.              Wife should not be compared with the mother. - 58:2

10.         The atonement paid by those who have stated that they will not have family relationship with their wives or considering them  their mothers. - 58:3

11.         If a person takes oath stating that he will not have family relationship with his wife. - 2:226

Divorce

1.              Those who have no understanding need not live together for financial reason. - 4:130

2.              Should not make haste in divorce. - 4:34,35

3.              It is necessary that other should find ways and means to bring peace between the couple. - 4:35

4.              Should not keep a woman divorcing with the motive of giving torture. - 2:231

5.              When the divorce for the first time is given the divorced wife can be recalled without any formality before the completion of three menstrual periods. - 2:228, 2:231

6.              Even after divorcing twice the woman can be recalled. - 2:229

7.              After the third divorce the woman cannot be recalled. - 2:230

8.              After the third divorce if the woman marries another person and that person divorces her then the first husband can re-marry her. - 2:230

9.              The marriage agreement will be cancelled automatically if the stipulated period (3 menstrual periods) came to an end. - 2:231

10.         The divorced women can remarry only after the completion of 3 menstrual periods. - 2:228

11.         When the divorce is given for the first time the husband cannot expel her from his house. - 65:1

12.         Woman should not hide if they are conceived. - 2:228

13.         The talk regarding the marriage cannot be held before the completion of the 3 menstrual periods. - 2:235

14.         It is a duty of a husband to give an amount to his wife if he divorces the woman without having family relationship with her even if no Mahar is fixed in advance. - 2:236

15.         Those women who have been either divorced or lost their husband can remarry only after the completion of the three menstrual periods. - 65:4

16.         If the woman is divorced before the husband had family relationship with her, then she can marry immediately. - 33:49

17.         The woman, who is divorced, can demand wages from the husband to suckle her child. - 2:233

18.         Those who have divorced their wives have the obligation of giving an amount to the women according to their financial capacity. - 2:241

19.          Should not harm the women in order to oppress them. - 2:231, 65:6

20.         They have the right to marry whoever they like after the period of Iddah. - 2:232

21.         No one should place an obstacle to the remarriage of women. The financial responsibility of suckling the child lies with the husband. - 2:233

22.         If the woman who is divorced suckles the child then she has to be paid wages. - 2:233, 65:6

23.         If the father dies the heirs of the diseased are responsible for his debts. - 2:233

24.         Whatever work should be done according to their capacity. - 2:233, 2:236, 2:286, 5:6, 6:152, 7:42, 23:62, 65:7

25.         Suckling the child can be done by using a suckling woman. - 2:233.

26.         Suckling a child is till the child completes 2 years. - 2:233, 31:14, 46:15

27.         Food and dress have to be provided during the period of suckling. - 2:233

28.         Should not be separated for more than four months due to anger. - 2:226

29.         After divorce, Iddah is for 3 menstrual periods. - 2:228

The rights of women

1.              Women also have rights like men. - 2:228

2.              Men and women are equal in many aspects. - 2:187

3.              Marrying woman without her consent is not approved, it is forbidden. - 4:19

4.              The husband has no right to keep a woman, who wants separation, under compulsion. - 2:231

5.              Woman also has the right to divorce. - 2:228

6.              After the divorce the wives should not be prevented from remarrying. - 2:231, 2:232

7.              Wife has the right to separate from her husband. - 4:128

8.              Wife has the right in the property of her husband and so also the husband has right in the property of his wife. - 4:12

9.              Woman also has the right to property. - 4:7

10.         Women’s share in the property is less. - 4:11, 4:176

11.         Whether it is men or women whatever they earn belongs to them. - 4:32

12.         In the Hereafter both men and women have equal reward. - 3:195, 4:124, 16:97, 33:35, 40:40

13.         Those who lost their husbands can marry after four months and ten days. - 2:234

14.         Woman has the right to separation by giving a compensation. - 2:229

15.         Remarriage should not be prevented after the completion of Iddath. - 2:232, 2:234

16.         During the period of Iddah marriage agreement should not be done. - 2:235

17.         Before having family relationship even if the Mahar is not fixed in advance, if a woman is divorced then she should be provided with reasonable allowance. - 2:236

18.         According to the financial status of a person the amount that he is liable to pay should be fixed. - 2:236

19.         Iddath of the woman who lost her husband. - 2:234, 65:4

20.         After the divorce a consolidated amount has to be paid to the woman. .-2:241

21.         The amount should be paid to the woman generously. - 2:236

22.         ‘Mahar’ by a husband to a wife should be paid compulsorily. - 4:4, 4:24,25, 4:127, 5:5, 28:27, 33:50, 60:10

23.         Women can forgo their mahar. - 2:237, 4:4

24.         Mahar need not be returned. - 4:20,21

25.         Mahar given to the woman should not be asked to return for any reason. - 2:229

26.         Husband and wife can make peace among themselves. - 4:128

27.         The husbands who place the blame on their wives. - 24:6-9

28.         After the fixation of Mahar if a woman is divorced before having family relationship, half of the Mahar should be paid. - 2:237

29.         Both sides can forgo the Mahar. - 2:237

30.         It is better to show generosity. - 2:237

Parents and Children

1.              Naming the child. - 3:36

2.              Taking care of the parents. - 2:83, 2:215, 4:36, 6:151, 17:23, 19:32, 29:8, 31:14, 46:15

3.              Emphasizing the religious teachings to the children. - 2:132,133,  11:42, 31:13, 31:17-19, 37:102, 46:17

4.              Suckling the child for two years. - 2:233, 31:14

5.              Suckling of the child can be done with the help of a nanny. - 2:233

6.              Seeking the child from God. - 3:38, 19:5, 21:89, 37:100

7.              It is a great sin to kill the child. - 6:137, 6:140, 6:151, 17:31, 60:12, 81:8

8.              Praying for a righteous child to God. - 7:189

9.              Should not forget God due to the affection of the children. - 8:28, 9:85, 18:46, 34:37, 60:3, 63:9, 64:14,15

10.         Principle is greater than the parents. - 9:23, 19:48, 29:8, 31:15

11.         Principle is greater than the children. - 11:42,43, 58:22

12.         Partiality in the expression of affection between the children. - 12:5, 12:8, 12:13

13.         Weeping due to the separation of the child. - 12:84,85

14.         Respecting the parents. - 12:100, 17:23

15.         Should not hate the female child. - 16:58,59, 42:49, 43:17, 81:8,9

16.         Obeying the parents. - 17:24

17.         Praying for their parents. - 17:24, 26:86, 71:28

18.         Acquiring wealth for the children. - 4:7, 4:11, 18:82

19.         Giving advice for the parents who go in a wrong way. - 6:74, 19:42-45, 21:52, 26:70, 37:85, 43:26

20.         The parents praying for their children. - 2:124, 2:128, 3:36, 14:35, 14:37, 14:40, 46:15, 25:74

21.         The greatness of MotherHud. - 31:14, 46:15

22.         Even if the parents go in a wrong way it is obligatory for their children to help them. - 31:15

23.         Mother is the one who gave birth to her child. - 33:4, 58:2

24.         There is no adopted child other than the one who is begotten. - 33:4, 33:5, 33:37

25.         Shares in the property of the parents for the children. - 4:11

26.         Shares for the parents in the property of their children. - 4:11

27.         Justice should not be neglected for the sake of the parents. - 4:135

28.         Forgiveness should not be sought for the parents who associate partners to God. - 9:113, 9:114, 60:4

29.         Seeking the prayer for the parents. - 12:97

30.         Even the female children can also help their parents. - 28:23

31.         Showing humility to the parents. - 17:23

Having Cordial Relationship with the relatives

1.              Helping the relatives. - 2:83, 2:177, 2:215, 4:36, 16:90, 17:26, 30:38

2.              Bequest done for the relatives. - 2:180

3.              Showing affection towards the relatives. - 42:23

4.              While dividing the property the relatives who are not heirs can also be considered. - 4:8

5.              Justice should not be bent for the sake of the relatives. - 4:135, 6:152

6.              False oath should not be taken in favor of the relatives. - 5:106

7.              Even if those who associated partners to God are your relatives, should not seek forgiveness to them. - 9:113

8.              Should not take oath stating that no help will be rendered to the relatives. - 24:22

9.              Even our relatives will not carry our burden in the Hereafter. - 35:18, 60:3

10.         Fearing God in the case of our relatives. - 4:1

11.         Priority should be given to the relatives. - 8:75, 33:6

12.         Should not break the relationship. - 47:22

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